A Godly Design for a Godly Life

There is a deep peace that comes when a woman walks in the role God designed her for. When she embraces her calling with grace, gentleness, and faith. But that peace doesn’t blossom in just any soil. It grows best beside a man who walks in obedience to God, a man who leads not by pride or domination, but through love, protection, and provision.

When a woman joins herself to the wrong man, one who is not rooted in Christ, she often finds herself stepping out of God’s order and into the world’s confusion. She starts to feel she must fend for herself, take on roles never meant to rest on her shoulders, and carry the weight that a godly man should. In time, her spirit hardens. She begins to live in a world that tells her she must be both man and woman — provider and nurturer, protector and homemaker, leader and follower all at once.

“When you cannot rely on the man you are with to provide, protect, and lead, you are forced to take on a nature that is not your own.”

That’s the seedbed of feminism: not empowerment born from peace, but exhaustion born from imbalance.

The Right Man Awakens the Right Kind of Woman

When you are with the right man something incredible happens. You don’t have to try to be feminine. You become feminine.

Your softness is not weakness, but a reflection of his strength. Your nurturing heart flourishes because you feel safe to let it. Staying home and raising your children becomes not a task, but a calling — one that brings you joy and fulfillment. Caring for your home becomes an act of love, not obligation.

Submission, when properly understood, is not about servitude — it is about trust. It’s about knowing that your husband is leading you in God’s will, and that you are his helper in the divine mission God has placed before him.

Helper, Not Servant

The Bible never calls women to be servants to men. It calls us to be helpers.
The Hebrew word used in Genesis — ezer — is the same word used to describe God Himself as the helper of Israel. It’s not a word of weakness, but of strength and divine partnership.

Women are designed to help their husbands do what they cannot do alone — to bring wisdom, beauty, discernment, and nurturing to the household he builds through his labor and protection.

“A woman is not made to be a servant of man but a helper — the one who brings to completion what he alone cannot accomplish.”

When Scripture Is Misused

Sadly, some men misuse God’s Word to manipulate and control. They quote Scripture to enforce comfort rather than Christ-like sacrifice. But the Bible is clear:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25

Christ did not rule with an iron hand — He served in love, He sacrificed, and He led by example.

A man who truly loves his wife as Christ loves the church will create an environment where her feminine heart feels free, not enslaved. When a man leads through Christ, his leadership becomes a blessing. It allows his wife to rest in her God-given role — to embrace the soft, gentle, nurturing spirit that the world mocks but God treasures.

The World vs. God’s Order

The modern world has tried to erase the beauty of biblical womanhood. It tells women they must be men to matter. It praises independence but quietly ignores how lonely and weary that independence can become.

Feminism promised freedom but often delivered burnout and bitterness. It teaches women to distrust men, to compete with them, and to see submission as oppression.

But biblical womanhood says otherwise. It says submission is peace. Service is honor. Nurturing is divine.

“Her life is her ministry. Her home is her testimony. Her love, patience, and gentleness speak louder than any modern feminist slogan ever could.”

There is a quiet strength in a woman who stands under the protection of her husband. Who knows her value and purpose are not found in the eyes of the world, but in the heart of her Creator.

She doesn’t need applause, a paycheck, or a platform to feel fulfilled. She knows her worth is sealed by the One who made her.

The Call for Men

This divine balance rests heavily on the shoulders of men.
If you want a godly wife, you must first be the right man. You cannot demand her respect if you do not earn her trust. You cannot expect her to submit if your leadership is built on pride.

A woman’s spirit responds naturally to love that mirrors Christ’s. When she feels secure, cherished, and valued, she gives of herself freely because that’s how God designed her heart.

The union of man and woman was never meant to be a power struggle, but a partnership under God’s authority a reflection of Christ and His Church.

When that order is honored, the home flourishes. Children grow up seeing love modeled through sacrifice and respect. And society, in turn, becomes stronger because the family is the foundation of every nation.

A Woman Rooted in God’s Design

So, dear woman of God choose wisely. Don’t settle for a man who quotes Scripture but doesn’t live it. Don’t tie your future to a man who cannot carry the weight of spiritual leadership.

Wait for the man who walks like Christ, who seeks wisdom, and who will love you with the same devotion that Christ loves His bride.

Because when you choose rightly, you don’t just find a husband you find the soil that allows your God-given femininity to bloom.

And when you are planted in that soil, you will find that being a homemaker, a mother, a wife is not something to apologize for.

It is holy work.
It is sacred.
It is the way God intended it to be from the very beginning.

Closing Reflection

“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” — Proverbs 14:1

Biblical womanhood is not a limitation it’s liberation through divine order. When a woman is loved as Christ loves, she becomes who she was always meant to be: a reflection of grace, peace, and godly strength.

When the mountain air turns crisp and the leaves begin their fiery dance down the hillsides, it’s time to gather in the kitchen for one of fall’s dearest traditions, making apple butter. In homes nestled along the Appalachian ridges, this was more than a recipe; it was a season of togetherness. Mothers and daughters would peel and dice apples side by side, the scent of cinnamon and spice filling the whole house with comfort. A spoonful of this smooth, golden butter on a warm biscuit or slice of fresh-baked bread is the very taste of autumn. Sweet, simple, and made with love.

Ingredients:

• 7 cored and diced apples

• 1 cup brown sugar

• 1 teaspoon cinnamon

• 1/8 teaspoon allspice

• 1/8 teaspoon ginger

• 1/8 teaspoon nutmeg

Directions:

1. Place all ingredients into a large, heavy-bottomed pot and cover. Cook over medium-high heat until the apples are soft and tender.

2. Using a masher, crush the apples gently until no large pieces remain.

3. Continue to cook uncovered, stirring often, until most of the water has cooked away and the mixture thickens.

4. Pour the warm mixture into a blender and blend until smooth and creamy.

5. Spoon into clean jars and allow to cool.

To Serve:
Delicious warm or cold. Spread it thick on homemade biscuits, toast, or a slice of country bread.

To Store:
Keep refrigerated and enjoy within 2 weeks.

It’s a humble taste of mountain tradition one you’ll want to pass down just the same.

As a wife of a United States Marine, Veterans Day holds a sacred place in my heart. It is more than a day on the calendar; it is a time to pause, reflect, and honor the men and women who have bravely served our country. It is a day to remember that freedom, stability, and the quiet blessings of home and family are not given—they are earned through sacrifice.

I often think about the values my grandparents lived by—the steady, deliberate pace of life, the importance of family, faith, and duty. They taught me that responsibility is not something to be taken lightly, and gratitude is not a mere sentiment, but a way of living. Veterans Day reminds me of this truth. The men and women who served in uniform understood duty in its most profound sense. They rose each day, often leaving behind loved ones, comfort, and security, to protect a nation founded on liberty, faith, and family.

As a military wife, I see the weight of service up close. The sacrifices extend beyond the battlefield. There are lonely nights, missed birthdays, and moments of worry that ripple through the family left behind. But there is also a deep, abiding pride—a recognition that our Marines and soldiers are part of something larger than themselves. They are safeguarding a way of life that honors God, cherishes family, and respects the enduring wisdom of generations past.

In a world that moves fast and often forgets the past, Veterans Day calls us to slow down. To write a note, say a prayer, or simply offer a word of thanks. To remember that the freedoms we enjoy—the Sunday dinners, the quiet evenings at home, the ability to raise our children with faith and virtue—have been defended by brave hearts willing to bear the cost.

Today, I lift up every veteran in my prayers. I am grateful not just for their courage, but for the example they set: to live with honor, to serve without complaint, and to place duty above self. May we, as their families and fellow citizens, emulate their steadfastness in our daily lives, cherishing home, faith, and family above fleeting trends or conveniences.

Veterans Day is more than remembrance; it is a call to uphold the very values these heroes protected. May we honor them not only with our words, but with our lives—slow, steady, faithful, and grateful.